The Real Truth About Accepting Yourself
How would completely accepting yourself change your life?
You. The you that you are at this exact moment?
What if you felt 100% ok with who you are, without changing a single thing?
Everyone deserves to accept themselves.
You deserve feeling comfortable in your own skin. Imagine walking into any room with confidence, without caring what anyone else thinks. All of the pressures to be perfect are gone because you love yourself for who you are.
What if those self-doubts melted away?
You deserve to like yourself. You deserve to know you are completely amazing and loved and whole.
That’s why I am telling you the not so talked about TRUTH. It is time to get real about accepting yourself.
Let’s start with things we’ve all heard before.
Accepting yourself is so important!
It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Accept you for you!
You are so special. Just be yourself.
Sounds good, but…
Life is not that simple. Life is not a T.V. show where every character starts off a hot mess and magically ends up with their you know what together.
I am still guilty of saying all of these things because, yes, I actually believe them.
I am also guilty of not following this empty advice. Why? Because this overly simplified advice isn’t the whole story.
These cliché, far away ideas don’t feel real. Why does it sound so simple? Is the rest of the world getting something that you are missing? It can make accepting yourself start to feel impossible.
If you struggle with accepting yourself, you are not alone! That is why I am here to get real.
Here’s the real truth about accepting yourself!
It’s Super Freaking Hard
I am not about to lie. It is difficult to accept yourself. There will always be voices, from yourself, friends, family, and the media, telling you that you are not enough. It can make it hard to love yourself for who you are.
Don’t believe every voice you hear.
Believe this: You ARE enough!
Say SHUT UP to those voices in your head saying you’re not good enough!
Accepting yourself is hard, but not impossible. It’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself.
Accepting yourself takes practice. Sometimes you need to choose your thoughts and actions until you start believing it. Tell yourself that you accept your thighs, your mind, your goofy dance moves, your smile, and everything else that makes you YOU. Even when you aren’t feeling it, look in the mirror and tell yourself you like what you see. Faking it may sound crazy, but I dare you to try it.
Accepting Yourself Doesn’t Mean Limiting Yourself
Accepting yourself puts you at peace with who you are and where you are. You don’t need to change yourself to be good enough. “Improvements” don’t equal worth.
That doesn’t mean staying stuck in that same place forever. This moment is not the end of your story. You can love yourself as you are and still change, grow and improve.
You Are Still Perfectly Imperfect.
I am going to be brutally honest here: you aren’t perfect. You have flaws.
WHAT? I thought you were supposed to be all positive and encouraging!
Okay, hear me out. You are not perfect. You are perfectly imperfect. This is something I stressed myself out about growing up. I believed that I had to be perfect to be okay with myself. I saw my flaws as obstacles to happiness. Even something as insignificant as waking up with a new pimple would change the way I saw myself.
It took some practice (*ahem* hello up there “fake it ‘til you make it”), but I started realizing acceptance is not about perfection.
Your imperfections don’t make you less than.
Your imperfections don’t make you unworthy of love and acceptance. They make you beautiful. They make you human. They make you you.
Accepting yourself is possible.
I have seen so many comments on Instagram saying things like: “I wish I had your confidence, but it’s impossible for me to like myself”. So many people believe that they actually can’t accept themselves. That’s just WRONG.
Accepting yourself is possible!
There is no magic wand to make it happen (I would be waving that thing so hard).
If it’s possible for other people on Instagram, it’s possible for you.
It Might Sneak Up On You.
How do you know that you accept yourself? How can you tell? What does it look like?
Accepting yourself probably won’t be some fairy tale, all at once moment. It might sneak up on you. You’ll probably notice it in small or unexpected ways.
It might look like:
– More time having fun with friends.
– Less time wasted not feeling good enough.
– Smiling when you look in the mirror.
– Laughing, being creative, and following your dreams.
– Not comparing yourself to others
– Saying yes because your anxiety isn’t saying no no no.
– Wearing that OOTD you’ve been too self-conscious to try.
– Freedom from the knot in your stomach.
You might not feel great about yourself every day. You can still have insecure moments. Accepting yourself is a journey. It can surprise you in fantastic ways, but it won’t be perfect. That’s okay!
Learning to accept yourself sounds way easier than it actually is. I get that. But working towards it is completely, absolutely 100% worth it.
Who does not accepting yourself help?
Who does not accepting yourself hurt?
You only have this day. This hour. This moment. Don’t waste it hating yourself.
If you can accept that unicorns exist (cause come on, don’t act like we all don’t know they’re real) then you can definitely accept yourself.
Do you struggle with accepting yourself?
What does accepting yourself look like to you?
Let us know in the comments!
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