Healthy Relationships: 10 Things You Should Be Doing
Your heart flip-flops when your eyes meet.
Fireworks go off every time you kiss.
The world looks brand new.
Time doesn’t exist.
You know what I’m talking about.
Being in a relationship can feel like magic.
You want to spend every minute together and when you can’t be together, you stay up all night texting.
You never run out of things to talk about and everything they do is sooo adorable. When you’re together, somehow it all makes sense.
All together now…awwwwwww!
When it is just the two of you, the world around you disappears.
It all sounds pretty amazing, but how do you make it last?
How do you turn fireworks and butterflies into a strong healthy relationship? Short answer: it takes work.
Sorry to burst your adorable little bubble, but it’s true.
Healthy relationships cannot survive on the cuteness of the two of you alone. You can only ignore the world around you for so long before your friends and family stage an intervention.
Does that mean give up on the ooey-gooey stuff? No! It means making sure you are doing the things that keep your relationships strong, happy and most importantly healthy.
10 Things You Should Be Doing in Healthy Relationships:
1. Surviving time away from each other
It’s normal to want to spend 24/7 together. Is it a must? NO! You do not need to hang out with each other every minute of every day. Spending time apart is actually important. It helps strengthen a relationship.
2. Spending time with other people
Yes, other people. When you’re a couple it’s easy to forget the rest of the world. Remember that your friends and family still exist. They don’t want to be ignored because you have a new snuggle bunny. You should never give up one for the other. Finding a balance is what it’s all about. Making time for everyone will make a healthier, happier relationship.
3. Being Honest
Keep it real. Always speak your truth. Hiding your feelings? Don’t do it. Lying to each other? Definitely not worth it. Agreeing with them just to make it easier? Never works.
They gush about their unique love for the Ball-bearing Treehopper, and you’re all like…
“Ball-bearing Treehopper? OMG, it’s my fav too! I’ve seen every documentary about it on the discovery channel!!”
OH REALLY NOW?
In a healthy relationship, you should feel comfortable disagreeing and saying no. They’ll probably wish you loved the Ball-bearing Treehopper as much as they do, but it’s totally cool if you don’t.
Seriously though, what is this thing? Nightmares.
4. Trusting each other
Trust is about believing in each other. Jealousy and insecurities don’t get in the way. Will those feelings pop up? Of course! They are normal feelings, but those feelings shouldn’t control how you react. When you see them talking to someone cute, keep your cool because you know it’s just talking. When jealousy comes creeping in, trust helps you shut it down.
Talk to each other! Talk about your day, your dreams, your fears, your favorite movies. It’s important to feel comfortable enough to express your thoughts and feelings. Don’t avoid discussing important things like where the relationship is going and how fast you want it to progress.
6. Supporting each other
Show interest in what they like and say. That doesn’t mean you have to binge watch an entire season of their favorite show. It means you don’t have a problem with them wanting to do it. You inspire each other to be your best self by supporting each other’s individuality.
7. Understanding disagreements are normal
You bring your own opinions and unique ideas to a relationship. Your thoughts won’t always match theirs. That is healthy and totally expected. Everyone disagrees at some point. Think of how boring life would be if everyone thought the same way. When arguments pop up, try to understand each other’s point of view. You don’t have to agree, but you have to hear each other out. Try finding ways to compromise. Arguments are not deal breakers.
Not needing to be right + admitting when your wrong = Healthy Relationships
8. Giving it time for love to grow
Love grows stronger with time, so give it time. Don’t be in a rush to take the next step. It is about enjoying the journey. Have fun getting to know each other.
9. Having fun
It’s important to have fun. Your relationships should bring you happiness. The good should always outweigh the bad.
10. Taking care of yourself
A great relationship starts with you taking care of yourself When you are at your best, you will give your best self to the relationship.
“If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
You deserve a healthy relationship, but sometimes love comes with blinders. When you fall in love, it can be easy to overlook things. Everything seems shiny and magical so you might not notice any unhealthy signs.
Use this list to see how your relationship is going.
Not every relationship is healthy. It can take time to find the right match, but it’s worth it. Never settle for anything less than healthy. You both deserve that.
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Are you in a relationship? How many of these 10 things are you doing?
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and it sounds like…
Oh me I fall in love with you every single day
And I just wanna tell you I am
So honey now
Take me into your loving arms
Kiss me under the light of a thousand stars
Place your head on my beating heart
Hope, Fireworks, and Lots of Love,
Gabriella & Veronica