My Mom Read My Diary

Oct 15, 2017 | ASK THG

BETRAYED ASKS, A person reading a diary

I know my mom read my diary. Why would she do that? I thought I could trust her and now I just feel so betrayed. I haven’t talked to her since because I don’t know how to handle it. There was nothing really bad in there, but I wrote about this girl I have a crush on. The thing is my mom doesn’t know I like girls. I tell her everything I just haven’t’ told her this yet. I know she won’t be upset, I just wasn’t ready. How do I handle this?

Betrayed

Hey Betrayed,

You have every right to be upset. Your mom should have respected your privacy. It’s hurtful to have your personal thoughts invaded.

You’ve always been able to trust her, so what happened?

Why did your mom read your diary now?

Parents want to know what’s going on.
They love you. If there’s not enough communication, parents feel shut out and worried. They have a responsibility to protect you. They’ll do whatever it takes to figure out if you’re hiding something. They have a responsibility to protect you.

Maybe your mom sensed there was something you weren’t telling her.
No, that doesn’t make it right. However, it possibly explains her decision to read your diary.

Now what?

It’s time to talk to your mom. The longer you wait, the more awkward it becomes.

Ask her straight up why she read your diary. Be honest about how it made you feel. Explain that your diary is where you work out your thoughts and emotions. You need to trust that she will respect that. Remind her that you have and will always tell her everything, but when you are ready. Let her know she should just come to you and ask about any concerns first.

Gabriella Says: 

My mom, Veronica, has never read my diary. I have always tried my best to be pretty open and honest with her. I didn’t have to tell my mom every private thought. But I always let her know what was going on in my life. The more I talked to her, the more privacy she gave me.

You have every right to be upset right now. Don’t let that affect your relationship with your mom. She made a mistake. Remember, everyone makes mistakes.

hope, locks, and lots of love,
gabriella & veronica
The Hope Girls

Your turn!

It never feels good to have your privacy invaded. Has anyone ever read your diary? How did you feel? What did you do?

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