Did I Make a Huge Mistake?

Dec 31, 2017 | ASK THG

T ASKS, Girl wondering if she made a huge mistake

Did I make a huge mistake? I found out the guy I liked actually liked me. I have secretly liked him for two years. So finding he felt the same was extra.

 Two weeks ago, we met up at a friend’s house. We have been hanging out ever since. It’s been amazing! This past weekend he was over at my house and we had sex. We were messing around and we decided to do it.

 The thing was that I was a virgin. I was super nervous, but he was so sweet. He kept making sure I really wanted to do it and asking if I was ok. He is so adorable! We used a condom and he was so careful.

 I was completely ok with everything and enjoyed it. We’ve hung out since, but we have not had sex again yet. He is the best guy I have ever dated. I’m so falling for him. The only problem is now I wonder if it was it too soon. Was it a mistake?


Hey T,

You shouldn’t worry about whether or not it was a mistake. You made a choice and went with it.  Don’t stress over things you can’t change.

Could you have waited? Yes, definitely.  Was it too soon? Maybe. But, it’s a part of your story now. Be proud of yourself for making positive choices like using protection and both of you consenting.

Now, instead of wondering if it was a mistake, focus on what comes next.


Are you ready to have sex again?


Doing it once doesn’t mean you need to rush into doing it again. You get to decide when it’s the right time. Questioning your decisions and being unsure could be a sign that you’re not quite ready.


Do you feel ready to have sex again?


Having the right information can help when making an important decision. Talk to your doctor about your birth control options and ways to prevent STIs.

Sex is a big step and can sometimes make things feel awkward. Work on having a strong relationship outside of the physical stuff. Take it one a step at a time. There is no rush and no right answers. Everyone is different. Enjoy the process.

hope, crumbs, and lots of love,
gabriella & veronica
The Hope Girls

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