How Can I Be His Friend and Stay Out of Trouble?

Oct 8, 2017 | ASK THG

X ASKS, Two friends one is trouble

I have this friend and he’s pretty cool, but he causes trouble. Sometimes we get into stuff that I’m not really comfortable with.  I like hanging out with him, but I don’t want to always do the things he does. How can I be friends with him, but stay out of trouble? What should I do?


Hey X,

How much trouble is he on a scale of 1-5?


1 – He gets you out of your comfort zone and trying new things. It’s scary but safe fun.
5 – Does he put your life at risk? You could get hurt, hurt someone else, or go to jail.


Is he closer to a 5? You have two choices.


1. Start saying no.

If you want to keep this friendship, you have to be strong enough to say NO. Don’t hang out with him when he’s up to no good. Only go to places you know he can’t cause trouble. Don’t put yourself in situations where you might do something you’ll regret.

2. Find a new friend.

This might sound harsh. But you should never let someone determine what you do. If you can’t say no, or he doesn’t respect your choices, he’s not a good friend to keep in your life.

Either way, stand up for yourself. Don’t just follow along. You might even end up being a GOOD influence on him.

Veronica Says:

In high school, my friend Jenny had a habit of stealing. We’d leave the mall and she’d empty her pockets with stuff she had taken. Her friendship was important to me, so I was honest. I told her I didn’t agree with stealing. I decided not to go to the mall with her anymore. We stayed good friends and never went to the mall together again.

hope, donuts, and lots of love,
gabriella & veronica
The Hope Girls

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