I Think My Brother is Drinking Too Much
Hi, my problem is kinda serious. I think my brother is drinking too much. I’m 15 and he is 17, but I’m not trying to sound like a bratty younger sister. I know he drinks at parties, but this is different. He has been drinking at home and during school. The way he acts has also changed. He lies to my parents all the time and he has started being mean to me. He has never acted like that before. I don’t think I did anything to make him mad, but he’s angry with me. I’m getting scared and I don’t know what to do. Can you please help me? – YoungerSister
We understand that you are starting to get scared. This can be a scary situation. It does sound like he could have a drinking problem. This is not something you can handle by yourself. It’s time to talk to your parents.
Tell your parents everything that has been happening. It is important they know the truth so they can figure out the best way to help him.
Important things to know and understand:
Your brother might be mad at first, but that’s ok. Telling your parents is your way helping him. He probably won’t be able to understand that yet, but it is what’s best for him.
It’s okay and normal to feel sad and confused by all of this. This is a hard thing to deal with and it might become more uncomfortable before it gets better.
You are not responsible for his behavior. You did not do anything to make him angry. The alcohol is affecting his mood. It is not you.
You cannot fix him. No matter how much you try or love him, he has to decide to change for himself.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Find a way to express your feelings. Find someone you can talk to. Maybe another relative, a school counselor or attend an Alateen meeting. Never be embarrassed or ashamed to talk to someone. Everyone goes through stuff and we all need help.
Alateen– is a meeting where young people can share their own experiences of being affected by someone else’s drinking. You can hear how other teens are coping. It can be comforting to know you’re not alone.
Alateen FB Page
Here are some resources for your parents.
National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence
Al-Anon – is a meeting for your parents, or for your whole family to attend. Just like Alateen, everyone at Al-Anon has been affected by someone else’s drinking.
Hope, Courage, and Lots of Love,
Gabriella & Veronica